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My Brothers and Sisters

Posted by themirrenlee on 01/03/2012

  • Mirren Lee Deutsch (Me, the eldest, born in 1951. I dropped the Deutsch for my acting career; people had their hands full trying to pronounce Mirren! Now with Helen Mirren having such a high profile I notice that no one ever seems to have a problem pronouncing her name, but they still do with mine. Why is it difficult to get a grip on it as a first name but not as a last? I can only come to the conclusion that we expect last names to be “different”, but first names confuse us if there is no frame of reference in our culture. It comes from a Scottish bishop who became a saint. There is a St. Mirren’s football club in Scotland that is quite well known to soccer enthusiasts. So while it’s a man’s name, it has been a female family name on my mother’s side for generations. My mother’s mother was Annie Mirren Dollar, my mother was Mary Mirren Macleod, then there’s me, and I named my daughter Sarah Mirren Kalpokas {her father’s last name}. Someday I must find out if it goes back any further.)
  • Molly Anna Deutsch, born 1952. (My mother always called her “Nana”, after the book by Emile Zola. However, Nana always hated it because she was called “Nana Banana” in school. When she grew up, she changed her name a few times, finally settling on Annie Macleod. My mother’s maiden name was Macleod, and her mother’s name was Annie. I will refer to her as Nana when I talk about our childhood, and then switch to Annie later.)
  • Paul Michael Deutsch, born 1953. (Always known as “Michael”.)
  • Jonathan Peter Deutsch, born 1955. (Always known as “Peter”.)
  • Sheila Jinette Deutsch, born 1957. (Her married name is now Narayan. Her middle name was supposed to have been “Ginette”, but while getting recorded the lady spelled it wrong!)
  • Daniel Colin Deutsch, born 1962.
  • Rory Mor Macleod Deutsch, born 1961.

My parents finally divorced, after over 30 years of a very unhappy marriage, and my father remarried. He had two further sons with his new wife, and they both bear the names of sons he already had! I always found this blackly funny, wondering if he “forgot” about this fact in the face of so many children, or just couldn’t think of any more names. They are:

Stephen Michael Deutsch, born 1986.

Jonathon Deutsch, born 1991. (I have forgotten his middle name for the moment. The Jonathon is spelled differently than Peter’s above, but  I still find it a bit uncomfortably close. I wonder if anyone else would feel a bit “weirded out” if their father named another child the same as them? Everyone in my family determinedly acted like it was no biggie, but I found it insulting, hurtful and definitely “a different kind of normal”.)

These two boys were born when I was in my thirties; they lived in Southern California, while I was in Australia. I have only met them a few times, and in fact hardly know them, so they are not grouped in with the siblings I knew growing up.

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